Sometime last week while watching television my 11year old daughter drew close holding me and asks “mummy why don’t you pamper me everyday the way you have since I have not been feeling well”?
And I was stunned as that question was unexpected.
“Do you mean pamper you on a daily basis”?And she responds with a smile “Yes”.
I needed to understand better hence this dialogue.
Mummy: why do you think I went the extra mile to do things for you these past days?
Daugther: because I have not been feeling well and won’t be able to do them by myself
Mummy: do you expect this treatment every day?
Daughter: it will be nice.
Mummy: (still shocked) it will be nice to bath you, cook, dish and serve you, watch you eat, dot over you step by step? But where will home training and discipline come in?
Daughter: hmmmm, she hugs me and with a smile she says mummy I just love you.
Thereafter, while going through the conversation in my mind I began to ask myself, if I am really that tough on her and her siblings? How do I balance being a “tough” mum with being a “soft” mum?
Parenting can be a hard assignment, but one that must still be carried out following the rules otherwise like a pack of dominoes everything you have been building over the years can coming crashing before your very eyes.
In as much as I would love for everyday to be a “pamper-day” I know that some other needed ‘ingredients’of parenting must be infused in the process.
I love every part of being a mother. But most times it can be a hard assignment (being loving and firm at the same time) but someone’s got to do it, why not me.
How are you are you getting along with your mummy duties? Let’s share our challenges, tough experiences at the same time learn from one another.
Thank you for taking time to read this and waiting to hear from you.