19 Aug 20 years and counting…
Going down memory lane..
I remember my girly dreams and yes fantasies about marriage (which young girl didn’t have one?)
I remember looking at my parents marriage back then and silently praying God’s gift of such a beautiful union (And even a sweeter and stronger one)
I remember My actual first steps into this institution and all my dreams and fantasies gave way to anxieties, uncertainties and Reality.
My Reality after 20years of Marriage…
As my husband and I celebrate our 20th anniversary in a few days from now, here are the top 20 things I’ve learned during my years of marriage to prayerfully encourage you to press on, too:
1. Like most of you reading this will know and agree, marriage is hard work, Real Hardwork, it is not meant for jokers neither is it for the immature. I woke up to that reality early.
2. Marriage is about two people from different backgrounds, totally different mind sets, hence the need for a huge dose of patience and understanding. Amos 3 vs 3
3. It is that School the Lord is using to mould us to be more like Christ. One will pass through the Refiners fire, yielding is producing a better Me and most certainly a better spouse.
4. Prayer is Key. The success or failure of this union is dependent on how this vital tool is deployed. I found out that I didn’t have to wait for my husband to join me every night in prayer. Keeping the fire on our prayer altar burning was pertinent. 1Thessalonians 5 vs 17.
5.Submission to one another is non-negotiable. Ephesians 5 vs 21.
6. “Love is blind” is not a bad thing I have chosen to be blind to the less flattering traits of my spouse.
7.Communicate!Communicate!!Communicate!!!. We talk about everything and anything.
8. We are always looking out for new things that will kindle the fire of romance in our marriage. Simple acts of love keep two people knitted together.
9. Choosing to let go and let God says “Lord I choose to trust You”. 1 Corinthians 13 vs 7.
10. Having a vision gives direction, helps in the allocation of resources and avoidance of waste.
11. We are both jointly responsible for the fruits of our Marriage. Romans 14 vs 12.
12.Staying focused. External factors, distractions will always be there, however a resolute approach to such continues to help us surmoumt them. Hebrews 12 vs 2.
13. Fun! Fun!! Fun!!!. The couple who plays together stays together.
14. Keeping secrets is a no-no. Building trust within a marriage. God wants us to be uninhibited, transparent within marriage. Genesis 2 vs 25.
15. Being my husband’s wife is my most important ministry.
16. Grace is the glue that holds us together — God’s grace toward each of us and our grace toward each other.
17.There will be disappointments, we dust ourselves and continue with our life.
18. Constantly affirming one another gives us the boost to please each other .
19. Speaking the truth in love.
20. Failure is not an option for me, I am therefore committed to putting in my all to please my Saviour who has graciously blessed me with and in marriage, my husband of 20 years who I love with all my life, my children, His precious gifts who are for signs and wonders to their generation and beyond, to the many women and men who by God’s grace are watching and learning.
How long have you been married and what’s your best marriage advice? I’d love to hear it in the comment section below.