A Better Way

A Better Way

Sometime back there was this funny video of an indian wife singing so her husband could sleep off and when she thought it was a good time she attempted to help herself to his money hidden underneath his pillow. My friend’s husband and I made a joke out of it, but I made him understand that the lady in the video was far from wise and needed better understanding on how to get her husband to give her willingly rather than resorting to such gimmicks as shown in the video. Serously , I have heard some bizarre stories and trust me the end is never pleasant. Let us talk…

I agree some situations can’t be helped, but that’s not enough reason for any woman to stoop this low.
Look here, there are better and time tested ways of obtaining what we need from our spouses. The Bible is complete, you don’t have to stress, there is a better way.

👑The Esther Approach👑

The example of Esther gives us a subtle and wise approach to adopt when we get desperate and need only a positive answer or approval. God knows our every need, even our wants. He is involved in the affairs of our lives, He knows how we are and how anxious we can get and for this reason He wants us to be confident enough to come to Him in prayer, supplication and thanksgiving making our requests known to Him (Phil 4 vs 6). Like Queen Esther be;
• Thoughtful in plotting your request, presentation is crucial.
• Strategic in implementation ( Esther 5).
And as you do may light and gladness, joy and honor be yours.

🧕The Abigail Tactic🧕

This is one awesome woman I admire greatly for her sterling qualities, 1 Sam 25 vs 3b describes her as a woman of good understanding and beautiful in appearance (beauty and brains). She is our everyday wife and home maker. But watch how she combines these qualities.
We focus on her discretion and actions in the face of the tension created by her hubby. Harsh, loud words may become the catalyst to an unnecessary explosion. “A soft answer turns away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger” (Proverbs 15:1).
What is your attitude in a crisis? Further we see Abigail as an intercessor for her husband and household. Her humility and submission amongst earlier qualities are worth imbibing. Study your spouse.


👵Sarahs path👵

The name Sarah means “noblewoman” and she sure comported herself with dignity. This here is who every woman should strive to emulate. Dignity does not in anyway imply pride. In the book of Genesis from the 16th chapter we get introduced to Sarah, wife of Abraham suggesting he take her maid servant as wife to bear him a child.
All the times she was mentioned you can sense how in charge she was of her household and her relationship with her husband Abraham was a flourishing one. Communication between them was open, she had her husband’s ears and heart. I will like to expand on this, communication between a couple is everything. As wives our speech must be gracious and seasoned…Colossians 4 vs 6. Respect and honor must be relayed in the manner we speak to and with our spouses, notice Sarah called her husband “my lord”, not to depict inferiority but honor towards him (Colossians 3 vs 18 MSG). Such closeness is still achievable only if we are willing to put in the effort.

So there it is. We always have a choice to do better and be better. Be the wife and woman you dream to be.

Tsom expresses heart felt appreciation to everyone in this community for your time, contributions and feedback. Together we will get there.


11 Comments
  • Funke Memeh
    Posted at 00:21h, 17 June Reply

    Very inspiring mummy❤️

    • tsom-admin
      Posted at 00:33h, 17 June Reply

      Thank you my darlyn… a little counsel to note.

    • Victoria
      Posted at 10:20h, 17 June Reply

      We all need to be divinely strategic about our actions … nice write up

  • Mrs Bakir
    Posted at 07:41h, 17 June Reply

    Thank you ma’am , great teachings for both young and old women .

    • tsom-admin
      Posted at 19:16h, 18 June Reply

      Sis thank you for your support and comment.

  • Temilola@david
    Posted at 14:12h, 17 June Reply

    Totful and true lines. Thank you.

    • tsom-admin
      Posted at 19:15h, 18 June Reply

      Thank you, it is indeed heartwarmimg to know we have like minds on this topic.

  • Freson
    Posted at 14:31h, 17 June Reply

    Thanks sis mi, we really need to be strategic in all our dealings with people not only our spouses. God bless you dear

    • tsom-admin
      Posted at 19:14h, 18 June Reply

      Aww thank you my darlyn sis, thank you and I do agree with you, we need to work at getting better. Warm regards.

  • Yemisi O
    Posted at 19:02h, 18 June Reply

    A lot of work to be done. Thank you ma.

  • Henrietta Aliogo
    Posted at 17:27h, 21 June Reply

    Thank you for this important topic .It throws more light on how to handle the situation perfectly.

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