How to keep your man and marriage

This post is a special request from a lady dear to me. We have come a long way and during one of our conversations this topic came up and she requested a post that will give godly insight on the topic for the benefit of all women.

As I contemplate on this topic, the story of Abigail keeps coming to mind. What made her special? David recognized what an asset Abigail would be to him as a wife since she was clearly someone who managed well, protected her husband’s interests, and could recognize dangers in time to avert disaster. 

Marriage! This beautiful institution remains one of God’s mighty tool of carrying out His divine plans on earth and such great responsibility He has entrusted upon the key players – husband and wife.

The union of two imperfect individuals cooperating with God is so deep and for this reason it is required that couples stay in sync, united in spirit and purpose.

The woman in Genesis 2:18-22 is described as ;
A helper (one who balances him, a counterpart suitable and complimentary for him.
A vital part of man (a rib taken from the man and fashioned, formed)
A present (gift) from God to the man.

This tells me I (we) are so special, unique and
beautifully endowed for that special role no other creature can ever be able perform.

One of your foremost important assignment to your husband is that of prayer and intercession. A spirit filled and led wife is a treasure to her family especially her spouse… what man doesn’t love and want a godly wife? Uphold your spouse and family in the place of prayer and see your home and marriage filled with love and peace.

1 Peter 3 : 3-4 says “Your adornment must not be merely external—with interweaving and elaborate knotting of the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or [being superficially preoccupied with] dressing in expensive clothes; but let it be [the inner beauty of] the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, [one that is calm and self-controlled, not overanxious, but serene and spiritually mature] which is very precious in the sight of God.”

Unfortunately I have observed many times some women’s ignorance in applying these virtues to their benefit. Wisdom is key and when correctly applied produces great gain. Please ladies take good care of yourselves, eat right, exercise regularly, let your outward appearance attract your spouse’s attention always and then complete all these with a good character.

An industrious woman is a great asset to her household and helper to her spouse, Proverbs 31: 13-16, woman arise and don’t let anything or anyone stop you from finding fulfilment in your enterprise. However, learn to separate your official and ministerial titles and responsibilities from who you are as your spouse’s partner.

Your spouse relies greatly on you to manage the household with proficiency and sensitivity only you possess. As such a woman should know when to alternate her roles as a ‘thermometer’ and ‘thermostat ‘ as required.

Be an exciting partner. Sex is a big deal in marriage and to your spouse so please do not use spirituality as an excuse to cover up any inadequacies you may have to be a bore in bed. Talk with you spouse, share what excites both of you sexually, or any anxieties you have, and what new and exciting ways can you both pep up your sex life, work on your sense of humor, be playful, take interest in what he loves such as sports, the news or some other hobbies.

Manage your other relationships with friends, family, business associates and even your children, they must never interfere with your relationship with your spouse. 

You are a woman on assignment, formed with purpose, go forth and live out your purpose overcoming every distraction in the power of the Holy Spirit.

In the abundance of wise and godly counsel we are safe, we will like to hear your thoughts on this, kindly share your thoughts in the comments section.

Have a great week ahead…Tsom

11 thoughts on “How to keep your man and marriage

  1. Well put together..This is about more than fidelity in marriage. A godly wife wants her husband to know that he can trust her and depend on her just like she trusts and depends on him. She seems their marriage as a partnership. You guys are a team. God is the coach. The bible tells us, The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain.Proverbs 31vs11-12. A husband trusts her when she does him good and not evil. He will have confidence in her when he is encouraged. The trustworthy wife seeks to do her husband good all the days of her life. Lets not also forget that Husbands needs their wives to be:
    1. Support Them Spiritually.
    2. Encourage Them Emotionally.
    3. Enjoy Them Sexually.
    4. Appreciate Them Vocationally.
    5. Engage Them Intellectually.
    6. Connect with Them Relationally.
    7. Affirm Them Physically.
    8. Stand by Them Permanently.

    1. This is so aptly put, I just thank you Funke for articulating this so well. This post is generating some related concerns which will further benefit us all.
      Thank you for sharing darlyn

  2. I try to comment on this but the wordings fail me. But I believe God knows best . Great write up but a lot more needs to be done by both parties because if the woman is the only one to pray and keep the home what will the man do ? It takes two to tangle especially in this so called modern world of ours may his wisdom be upon us all.

    1. Your comments bring out another perspective,Which will be the topic for another day… however the bible and society put much expectation on the woman to do a good job in this area and that be the case how can we as women go about the task? This only attempts to scratch the surface of this topic and we hope as contributions come in we would be able to address those areas with time. Thank you Aladi.

  3. Thanks Ada for presenting the topic followed by the input.To keep your man and home is a business and every woman must always make it business indeed by meeting the expectations of God from wives in Ephesians 5 vs 22-24. So also husbands should comply with the word of God in Ephesians 5 vs 25-31 and Ephesians 5 vs 32 and 33 are for both of them. Knowing all these and acting will help them bring Godly children(more work for the woman) a lot of appreciation and ego for the man. A Godly man compensates his wife for her tireless efforts.All these can be achieved by the grace of God and power of the Holy Spirit. Shalom!

    1. Thank you mummy for this insight, we as younger women benefit immensely from the wise counsel of mothers in the faith such as yourself, this way we learn to avoid costly mistakes.
      Indeed it is a business that requires hard work and dedication. By His grace we will not labor in vain.

  4. GOod write up, more grace. Often women believe that Proverbs 31 doesn’t really apply to our modern lives. But I believe that God’s Word stands the test of time & is still relevant today.The virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman demonstrate how, as Christian women today, we can all fulfill our God’s given destiny and purpose. Prov. 14 Every wise woman builds her own house but the foolish plucks it down with her hands, I pray that we shall all be wise in Jesus name

  5. Good write up, more grace. Often women believe that Proverbs 31 doesn’t really apply to our modern lives. But I believe that God’s Word stands the test of time & is still relevant today.The virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman demonstrate how, as Christian women today, we can all fulfill our God’s given destiny and purpose. Prov. 14 says Every wise woman builds her own house but the foolish plucks it down with her hands, I pray that we shall all be wise in Jesus name

  6. May God continue to help and strengthen us in Jesus name.
    God bless you ma

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