Mummies!!! Who comes 1st: Husband or children?

Mummies!!! Who comes 1st: Husband or children?

So our first post stems from an interesting question thrown at me the other day while gisting with one of my daugthers. She asked, “Mummy who comes first to you, your children or daddy? Well I didn’t waste any time in answering that question because they all know my stand on such matters.

Gen 1: 26-27 tells us God said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion.”…

God created man for a purpose, for fellowship. God walked with Adam, till the fall. God walked with Noah, Methuselah, Abraham. This fellowship between God and man did not disrupt other areas of the lives of these men, in my opinion it strengthened their other relationships and brought focus to every other thing.

Gen 1: 26-27 tells us God said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion.”…

So back to the question, who comes first?
Life is experienced in seasons. We all go through seasons and as it is written in Ecc 3:1 “To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven” I strongly believe in the life of a woman-wife-mother she also learns to adjust to her seasons.

You can create a healthy balance

Personally my husband is my number one cheerleader, critic, best friend and much more. I enjoy his company tremendously, even when words are not being said. And I do my utmost best to nurture that relationship. I can not allow it to get cold as a result of neglect, mummy-duties or any other reason.
On the other hand, I also realise my commitment to the children God has given us. (They are the “every other thing shall be added unto you” from Matthew 6:33 promise because the Word of God says they are a gift from God.) To bring them up to be responsible individuals is an assignment that involves role modelling, mentoring, coaching, discipleship, friendship and a host of others. I also strongly believe that if I create a balance in both roles I will be able to attain and sustain my relationship goals without sacrificing one for the other.

I can not overemphaize my love for my children, they know me inside out, we play together, work together, relax together. Over time they have seen the strength of the love and friendship shared between their dad and I, and they are consciously working on growing a strong bond with both of us.

Now, I find myself in another season, the season where they are growing up and leaving home but I am so grateful to God for the past seasons of growing and nurturing of the bond we so closely share today. That has made the transition bearable and gives them the assurance that though they are not home with momma, I have a trusted friend with me, one they are sure will keep momma bubbling.

So what I am saying in essence mummies is this “You can have the best of both worlds” 😃

  • Henrietta Aliogo
    Posted at 12:36h, 22 March Reply

    Initially the question was hard for me to answer, but haven read through I saw the way you dealt with it scripturally,now I
    Know how to balance the relationships.
    Well done

  • tsom-admin
    Posted at 13:09h, 22 March Reply

    Glad you were able to see that both relationships can thrive without a conflict of interests…wish you good success in your efforts.

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