This Thing Called Home Training!

This Thing Called Home Training!

I don’t know if it is just me, but I have observed a rise in the display of ill-manners in our children of recent. And while musing over it, I wondered if it is not a problem that started a while back with obvious ripple effects on the children of today.

My heart bleeds, nooooo screams in utter disbelief when I encounter such children and most times their mothers’ actions or reactions like it’s normal.

What is happening? Are we trading our cultural values, are we becoming so ‘westernized ‘that we have chosen to overlook these things? Or is it a case of the blind leading the blind here?

As a mother, I strongly believe our children are direct reflections of our values and vision as parents. And to this end we must be deliberate about what we do with them and how we raise them.
Genesis 18 v 19: “For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord , to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.”

Psalms 127 v 3: “Behold, children are a heritage and gift from the Lord , The fruit of the womb a reward.”

These two passages inform us that God is greatly concerned about how “His Heritage and gift” to us turn out.

We can take a cue from the Proverbs 31 mother who keeps an eye on everyone in her household and keeps them all busy and productive.
Let’s keep an eye on our children their associations, lifestyle/habits and mannerisms.

The home is where character is formed in a child.
The home is where respect and responsibility are instilled.
The home is where service to humanity is taught.
The home is where the fear of God is taught, sown and nurtured.
The home is a school of life for our children not a refuge from life. Teach them, equip them adequately so that they are able to take their place in society and play their roles appropriately.

Mothers we have a lot of work to do. Receive strength by His grace.

15 Comments
  • Oluwayemisi
    Posted at 04:39h, 24 April Reply

    Amen! Bringing up a well mannered child begins with us parents. Are we well mannered? Are we setting the right example for them to follow? Our children are a reflection of who we are. This spurs me to speak right and act right, so that my children can follow my example. The Lord is our strength.

  • Mrs Owoeye
    Posted at 07:10h, 24 April Reply

    Hmmmm,I totally agree with you ma.very nice read.Charity should begin at home, i.e from our various homes. We as mother have a lot to do.May God give us the wisdom to set our kids on the right part and train them in the way if the Lord.Amen

    • theschoolofmothers
      Posted at 08:47h, 24 April Reply

      I say Amen. Thank you for your contribution. And by His grace you will make a good success of your call to motherhood.

  • Hennyholla Bowlgee
    Posted at 09:51h, 24 April Reply

    Amen to the prayers.
    To be honest what you don’t have you can’t give, why? we parents are our children role model they watch us and do likewise. There was a write up that I read about a mother, her 7 year old son and the uncle. The boy have no manners and the only thing she use as a bait for the boy is “I will not take you to Coldstone” no correct at all and we keep blaming people in the leadership and other children that are not brought up properly, we keep quiet when we see wrong and say it’s not my business. The good Lord will help us Parents and open our eyes to see the decadent in the world today and help us to stand our ground to do our part in Jesus mighty name Amen.

    • theschoolofmothers
      Posted at 10:06h, 24 April Reply

      My Darlyn I read that story as well and I was livid at the mother and uncle. And you are quite right about adults not taking responsibility anymore. I grew up as the child of my parents, aunties and uncles who were responsible for me at various stages of growing up both at home and away from home. But today’s parents frown if you as much as scold their children. We are also a part of the problem indeed. Thank you for your contribution.

  • OLUSEUN ADESIPE
    Posted at 12:29h, 24 April Reply

    It is very disheartening to see decadence in moral values in our society. Parents that are supposed to train and instill discipline in their children are the ones encouraging corruption and breaking laws e.g bribing, breaking traffic rules, well dressed motorist abusing & fighting , inability to say sorry by offenders etc
    2. God will ask from us how well we have trained His heritage entrusted in our care.
    3. Prov. 22: 6 says Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it Prov. 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it away.
    Dear parents please and please, don’t let us over pamper our children, a nation is built from the home, let’s give our children proper training to equip them for their God’s given destiny

    • theschoolofmothers
      Posted at 08:17h, 25 April Reply

      Very well put. There’s a need to watch what we do as adults. Our actions and words are indeed seen and heard not by God alone but our children, who tend to consider us parents as ‘god’ in their lives. Thank you sis.

    • theschoolofmothers
      Posted at 08:20h, 25 April Reply

      Very well put. Theres a need to be careful how we comport ourselves as adults. Our children are watching. God is watching.

  • Mojisola Moradeyo
    Posted at 18:58h, 24 April Reply

    I so much agree with all that has been said. Parents should strive to always set good examples for their children to follow. We are the mirror they look at. They are the reflection of who they see in the mirror which is us especially mothers.
    I remember when my last child who is now 7+ was 2+, we were together in my room and I wanted to throw a dirty tissue paper in the bin in my room. I threw it but missed and I told him to pick it up and throw in the bin because he was closer to it. I was shocked at what he did. He concentrated on the tissue on the floor,clamped it with his toes, picked it up and threw into the bin with his toes lol. I was shocked cos I never thought in my wildest imagination that he would be able to do it even though I knew he had seen me do it over and over. He immediately looked at me and said dirty. “meaning he does not want to use his hands and get it cos it’s dirty”You can imagine if it was something negative he had seen me do, I won’t know until I see him do same.

    God will help us to always train them in the way of the Lord. We are only caretakers and will be held accountable for them on that day.

    May we not be found wanting in Jesus mighty name.

    • theschoolofmothers
      Posted at 08:25h, 25 April Reply

      Amen in Jesus name. I can relate with your example, so many times I have heard my children say something like ” let me do it the way mummy will do it” or when they are analysing me I get shocked at the details they take note of that I may consider insignificant.
      God will indeed help us in Jesus name. Thank you sis.

  • Kaka Osoko
    Posted at 22:43h, 25 April Reply

    Amen. Too often than not we see parents display a high level of indiscipline all around us so do we expect the children to be any better? We have become so westernized even up to the foods we eat. If we do not know where we are coming from how will we know where we are going to? Let’s go back to our cultures, let’s go back to our value systems.

    • theschoolofmothers
      Posted at 22:22h, 29 April Reply

      Thank you sis Kaka, you are very correct about the need to parent by example.

  • Irene Okoro
    Posted at 09:13h, 28 May Reply

    Thanks for this vital topic. The need for home training can’t be over emphasized. Indeed our children are direct reflection of our values and visions as parents. Research shows that high quality parenting plays a critical role in a child’s personality as childrens traits and personalities are formed before age 10. If as parents we don’t train our children the way they should go, they will grow to go however they please. Hence the need for home training.

    • theschoolofmothers
      Posted at 15:26h, 28 May Reply

      It is wisdom to inculcate the right values and virtues from an early age.

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