Validation in Wrong Places

Validation in Wrong Places

Alas, it has been one year since the world lost its rhythm because of the pandemic. The “new normal” heavily impacting on every fabric of society. This experience is manifesting in a diverse emotional breakdown, mental wellness, suicidal tendencies are prevailing concerns in our society. More than ever before we should stand by one another. People are seeking succour, words of encouragement, some assurance. People need validation.

Validation is defined as recognition or affirmation that a person, their feelings, or their opinions are valid or worthwhile. Who does not like being told their thoughts and feelings are valid? That their opinions make sense? I know I do. But slowly and unconsciously, we can start seeking validation in places we were never meant to find it. It is no wonder that, soon enough, we never quite feel enough so we keep searching.

“For they loved the glory that comes from man more than the glory that comes from God.”

John 12:43

The new year brings with it a lot of optimism, however, people need much more than optimism to make sense of how to navigate the days ahead, “Build your foundation (and your path) on Christ and who He has made you to be, and you’ll always have the right filter to weigh the endless feedback life throws your way.”

My new year started as a test of both faith, patience, and humanity. I knew people like myself who were sick from the virus, and the one thing that kept us hopeful was the comfort of God, His promises. The best of humans is still human, fickle, and can quickly switch to preservation mode to survive.

Listening to the media or ‘expert’ opinion on what is going on, how we ought to respond to the times, and how we relate with one another is putting quite some pressure on individuals, families, and communities. How does anyone fare or know how to move on at a time like this?

Honestly, in as much as we need each other to stay strong, we should start finding validation from the One who never gets fazed by world happenings because nothing takes Him by surprise, the One who understands, and has all the answers and is able to make things better again.

Don’t give anyone the power to define your worth. God defines your worth.

That doesn’t mean you completely ignore people and live in your own little bubble. People matter to God, and so we too should place value on people. More than ever before it is time to show love to people, by this people will know we are disciples of Jesus.

We should listen and pay attention to people, you can never underestimate the power of your time, and your words. Just make sure we are not building the foundation of our-self or our life on what people say or think. Build your foundation on Christ and what He has told you in His Word, and you will always have the right filter to weigh the endless feedback life throws your way.

People may validate what we do, but Christ validates who we are.

Tsom will like to thank our guest writer, ‘funmike, for this article.

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14 Comments
  • OLUSEUN ADESIPE
    Posted at 08:56h, 07 April Reply

    We welcome theschoolofmothers back, may God continue to strengthen you to inspire lives. The pandemic truly came like a stormy wind shaking the whole world but we thank God we are still standing for the Lord is our refuge

    • tsom-admin
      Posted at 05:33h, 08 April Reply

      Thank you so much for the kind words and prayer. I firmly believe in God’s purpose and Will. Keep strong.

  • ENE Kolawole
    Posted at 17:05h, 07 April Reply

    Truly inspirational piece.

    • tsom-admin
      Posted at 05:32h, 08 April Reply

      Our very aim… Thank you for your time and feedback. XO

  • Adegbite Omotoke
    Posted at 22:25h, 07 April Reply

    Good one theschoolofmothers, may the Lord uphold us till the very end

    • tsom-admin
      Posted at 05:30h, 08 April Reply

      Amen and thank you. We appreciate your support. Blessings.

  • Edosa Obaseki Uhunmwagho
    Posted at 12:00h, 08 April Reply

    Thank you TSOM for coming back with a wake up call to me. The three highlights ministered greatly to me and has help redirect my focus and revalidate my existence, for Truly, I am hid in Christ Jesus, my life is HIS…HE is my Numero Uno in all things; not man at all. I pray for you divine wisdom in teachings applicable to daily living in Jesus Victorious name. God bless your ministry.

    • tsom-admin
      Posted at 05:19h, 09 April Reply

      Thank you sis. We can’t take glory for what God does through each post. But we are mighty excited to read about how they touch lives all around us. Enjoy God’s grace.

  • Peter ONIPE
    Posted at 02:43h, 09 April Reply

    “For they loved the glory that comes from man more than the glory that comes from God.”

    Now the verse above calls for deeper reflection.. I never want any glory that comes from man.

    This article is indeed insightful and speaks to the deepest part of my heart. Thank you Funke

    • tsom-admin
      Posted at 05:16h, 09 April Reply

      Thank you for your contribution and are truly glad that you were inspired by it. Take it a step further and meditate on the words and hold on to the truth they speak to your heart. Shalom!

  • Morenike
    Posted at 13:44h, 13 April Reply

    This is a wonderful and uplifting piece. In these uncertain times the world needs more of these messages that bring hope and assurance.

    • tsom-admin
      Posted at 06:49h, 29 April Reply

      Thank you Renee for the encouragement.

  • Aladi Omololu
    Posted at 08:16h, 15 April Reply

    hmmm very very thoughtful thank you ma.

  • Yemisi Onaopemipo
    Posted at 10:50h, 17 April Reply

    Thank you Lord for accepting me.

    Thank you Lord for loving me.

    Many thanks TSOM for this article.

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